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Walking out of Target today I was privy to

  1. A conversation
  2. An intervention
  3. A training session
  4. A teachable moment
  5. All of the above.

It went like this.

“Kyle! You are standing on Blake’s shoe!”


  • Mom’s loud voice to get Kyle’s attention.
  • Mom identifying the behavior in question, and leaving the assessment of what should be done to Kyle.

If Kyle chooses wisely the moment passes. If Kyle chooses unwisely, he will be welcoming a more specific directive and perhaps a swat or a cuff.

In time most parents develop the economy of directives, pacing themselves because except for napping and nighty-night, the challenging of limits is pretty constant. There is power in pacing.